Would you date a womaniser?

Published Tuesday, Nov 12 2013, 07:00 GMT  |  By  |  2 comments
After glamour girl Roxanne Jeffers spoke out about dating Cheryl Cole's ex-husband, love rat footballer Ashley Cole, we ask: would you ever go out with a serial cheat?

Would you ever date a womaniser like Ashley Cole?

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Would you ever date a womaniser like Ashley Cole?

Yes says Reveal's Celebrity Writer Rebecca Greenow, 26

"Earlier this year, I interviewed a woman who'd been wooed by Ashley Cole and she, like all the others who have spoken about him, described him as 'charming'. I can very much believe her – that's half the appeal of a bad lad, isn't it?

Rebecca Greenow, Junior Celebrity Writer, Reveal

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Rebecca wouldn't mind dating a womaniser.

'm going to admit it – I'm one of those girls who is more attracted to a bad boy rather than a nice (in other words, boring) one. It's the buzz you get when he finally picks up the phone to message you, when he makes one (however slight) romantic gesture and you end up wondering if you're the one who is going to be able to tame him.

Deep down you know of course you're not but, while it often leads to heartbreak, it's also undeniably exciting and what girl can resist that?

In reality, it's likely to end up with a smitten girl crying into her pillow but I've also witnessed girls having their hearts broken by 'nice' boys, too – those 'trustworthy, loyal' ones who, as it turns out, are also unable to keep their eye from wandering and their pants from dropping. And that hurts even more, because it's an even bigger betrayal when it seems to come without any warning.

I'm not saying I would want to make a womaniser my husband – I definitely wouldn't! But to casually date? Why not? As long as you go into it with your eyes open. Like every romance, there are always going to be risks, so why not have a bit of fun along the way?"

No says author and journalist Anna-Lou Weatherley, 39

"I'm a bit of a sucker for a bad boy – brooding, unpredictable, spontaneous, rebellious… the guy you love to hate. It keeps you on your toes and there's nowt wrong with that.

Throw the word 'womaniser' into the mix and you're headed for a world of pain. Trust me – been there, done that, got the broken heart.

Anna-Lou would never date a womaniser

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Anna-Lou would never date a womaniser

The dictionary definition of a womaniser is 'a man who engages in numerous casual sexual affairs'. Pity they don't add the bit at the end, which should read, 'even if he's in a relationship with you!'

Womanisers can't help themselves when it comes to the opposite sex. For them, the thrill's in the capture. Think you'll tame him? Think again. It's a sport, an addiction, a disease you can't cure.

These men don't need a reason to cheat. They can be in long-term, loving relationships and Ashley Cole's a prime example. Even a beautiful wife who adored him wasn't enough to stop him.

Dating a womaniser is a one-way ticket to Hurtsville. Even if he swears he's reformed, there will always be suspicion – texts, random numbers and nights out with the lads that will leave you a paranoid wreck. Trust is everything in relationships and these men rob you of dignity and damage your self-esteem. There's something in 'a leopard doesn't change his spots'. Ladies, proceed with extreme caution."

Anna-Lou's latest novel, Wicked Wives (Avon), is available now in paperback and e-book.

Would you date a womaniser?
YES - I agree with Rebecca44.00%
NO - I agree with Anna-Lou56.00%