Do you believe in love at first sight?

Published Tuesday, Aug 6 2013, 03:00 BST  |  By  |  2 comments
In a new survey by Expedia, a staggering 54 per cent of men claimed to have fallen in love after just one date, while only 20 per cent of women felt that strongly so soon. So can you really fall in love at a glance?

Couple gazing into one another's eyes while sharing a drink with straws but is it love at first sight?

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YES says Sarah Whiteley, 29, Reveal's senior features writer

Call me idealistic but yes, I believe in love at first sight. Mostly because it's happened to me. Twice.

My first serious boyfriend was a lad from uni and the minute I saw him, I knew he was going to be important in my life. He came over, joined our table in the bar and as we started chatting, there was just something there. Something special.

And it happened again with my
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boyfriend after that – we'd met in a club the week before but to be honest, I'd been out with my cousin and sambuca had been consumed… the upshot was that I couldn't quite remember the boy who I'd drunkenly given my number to.

But as soon as I saw him crossing the road, smiling when he recognised me, something sparked inside me. I have no idea why – he was wearing a brown suit (he'd come straight from work, he wasn't being weirdly formal) and was 20 minutes late. But it was there. The 'l' word.

Now, I'm not saying I'd run off and get married to someone I'd only met a few hours before – even I'm too cynical for that.

But I'm not alone in feeling like this. Loads of my friends have come back from first dates, declaring they've met their 'soul mate'. And they're the dates who've turned into long-term love affairs.

Love at first sight might be a cliché but things only become a cliché because they happen to people over and over again. Fact.

NO says Suzie Dalton, 35, freelance writer

When I read about this survey, I had a little chuckle to myself. Now I'm a big old softie – I fully embrace the idea that I'll grow old and wrinkly with my fella, but love at first sight? What a joke – they're all just thinking with their willies.

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The night I met my husband he was drunk, and was flirting with all of my friends. The only reason we ended up sharing a snog at the end of the night was because I thought he was pretty, and I'd had one tequila too many.

Our first date wasn't much better. I was nearly an hour late meeting him, by which time he'd nervously necked a few beers. He then proceeded to reveal far too much information, including the fact that he'd once slept with two girls on the same evening! By the end of the night, I wasn't sure I even liked him, let alone loved him.

In the 19 years since I had my first kiss, I've snogged a lot of frogs and never once have I come close to instantaneous love. I don't think I know a single woman who has had a lasting relationship out of love at first sight either – plenty of my friends have been convinced they've just met The One, but after they've got over the initial lust phase, they've come to realise that Mr Perfect is actually pretty average.

So have 54 per cent of men really found their dream woman after just one moment? Or have they realistically just found a woman they'd like to sleep with ASAP? I know what I believe...

Do you believe in love at first sight?
YES - I agree with Sarah57.78%
NO - I agree with Suzi42.22%